Sunday, December 10, 2006

Wisdoms Of Life

" You will never look at a cup of coffee the same way again. A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.
Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a word. In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners.
She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, ...Tell me what you see...Carrots, eggs, and coffee, she replied.
Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg. Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma.
The daughter then asked, What does it mean, mother? Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water. Which are you? she asked her daughter.
When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond?
Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?
Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?
Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?
Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor.
If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level?
How do you handle adversity?
Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.
The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything, they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past, you can't go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so at the end, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.
You might want to send this message to those people who mean something to you those who have touched your life in one way or another, to those who make you smile when you really need it, to those who make you see the brighter side of things when you are really down, to those whose friendship you appreciate, to those who are so meaningful in your life.
It's easier to build a child than repair an adult....This is so true.....May we all be COFFEE. "

CHRISTMAS - The Financial Strain - Is This You

"As Christmas draws near, it is actually one of the most dangerous times for many people more so than any other time of the year. Even though Christmas should draw us together around the reality of Jesus Christ and His presence in the world and our lives, it often doesn't. The reality for many of us is that Christmas produces a financial tension that overshadows the happiness of the holidays and creates long-term problems that last well into the new year.

I believe from what I have seen in my life and in alot of my friends also, financial pressure is one of the most dangerous forces people face. The beginning of almost all financial problems is when we are tempted to spend beyond our means.
Today, credit card companies, department stores and merchants of all kinds are making it easier than ever for us to buy what we want. Without discipline and forethought, we can easily get ourselves overcommitted and then face bills we can't pay. This always creates tremendous tension on you and how you view your own every day life.
This fact should sober all of us up to the dangers of overspending. As you enter into the holiday season, I hope you are able to purchase some special gifts for those people you care about. It's okay to do this every year, as we all enjoy giving and receiving gifts. But we all need to have certain rules that keep the holidays enjoyable and keep us from financial problems.

First rule is:... Christmas is about Jesus. Make sure that Christmas isn't just associated with getting something but is focused on the birth, and who he was and why he was born. Christmas is really the celebration of gift giving to each other as a extension of our worship of his birth to remember him, it's like when give some one a gift at their birthday any other time of the year, but at this time it's about the (Birth of a child in memory of him).

Another rule:...Don't !! compromise yourselves financially. It's okay to have arrangements with certain relatives, or friends where you all understand that you aren't going to be buying for each other or if you do, each of you will be giving each other only $$ money free-token gifts example: (Adopt a family together, clear a debt they owed you, free babysitting, house-cleaning, yard-work, nice get-together with each other or just a simple card are all great gifts from the heart. You don't have to feel cheap just feel good about what your doing for others,
I believe the thought is what counts most—not the amount that was spent.


Lets talk about just everyday life for a second, over the years that having too much debt robs the joy of anything you have ownd or have purchased right! It's like buying a house you can't afford, long after the excitement of buying it has worn off the pressure of making the payments lingers. That pressure can be overwhelming and negatively affects everything else in life.


WARNING STOP!!..Before you charge up your credit cards or sign up for some of those (no-payments, no-interest deals), think about the future implications of what you are doing to yourself for the next many months, can you really afford the extra payments ??

Can you really afford these payments without putting stress on your personal life and budget? Do you really need to get these things now? Is Jesus at the center of your Christmas or have you gotten swept up in the commercialization of the season or guilt ?


I don't want to sound like a Scrooge. I love buying gifts for people I care about even those I don't at this time of year!! I enjoy receiving gifts at Christmas, just as much as the next person. I'm sure you also enjoy Christmas in this way as me. But ..I'm just encouraging all of us to keep Jesus first and be careful about debt and overspending, long after the gift giving is over I promise you others will remember you for the good things you did for them MORE. Then some gift that you over-paid for (out of guilt)that sits in the back of their closet forgotton.


I'll leave you with this thought:.. A few Christmases ago I watched someone give a very nice gift to one of their children. They were thrilled the parents had their video camera rolling as the child opened it. They were obviously more excited than the child. He ended up ignoring the toy and played with the box for hours. Expensive box ...Huh! "